Independent Book Review by Vivien Sabel ~ Parenting Apart
Parenting Apart by Christina McGhee
This has to be one of the most comprehensive and empowering guidebooks I have read to date. Let’s be serious, separation and divorce is difficult enough but divorce when there are children involved is an emotive and complex matter. A family unit torn apart is even more difficult. McGhee begins her masterpiece by reminding us “it won’t be easy.” She then goes on to offer guidance that is second to none!
This book seamlessly glides through every possible topic imaginable from change, loss and legalities, to do’s and don’ts and common problems. She has divided the book into four sections with each of the sections carrying the answers to all of the questions a parent will consider through this guilt-ridden period of change.
She begins by introducing us to ‘the relationship between stress and parenting’, a wonderful introduction to allow us to see how our behaviours and responses can have a lasting and detrimental impact upon our offspring and us. At this point I began to wonder if McGhee had undertaken some clinical training but then I learnt of her coaching skills! And what a coach she must be! Feelings, behaviours, emotions and managing change are interwoven with clear-cut, practical management.
To me, this book is more than a guide. It is a MUST READ for all parents contemplating separation and divorce. For those of you already divorced it will help you to continue to sail the ‘sometimes’ stormy seas of separation.
Well-done Christina! Your work will support millions to deal with parenting apart. You describe your book as “a practical and empowering guide to raising happy and secure children after divorce or separation” to me it’s even more!
Relational Psychotherapist/Clinical Supervisor/Researcher/Writer