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Happy Father's Day

Dad I wish you were here to share today. We miss you in so many ways. Even though you're not with us now. I talk to you up in the clouds. With love today and always your ever-loving daughter Vivi

Review of The Blossom Method™

Book Review by Chris Bonsmann The best time to read 'The Blossom Method™' is before you have your baby. The techniques described will give you the insight and confidence to become a parent and to enjoy getting to know and love your baby. If your baby is already here, then you can still benefit from this book and appreciate the accessible way in which it is written. Becoming a parent can be a demanding and confusing experience. To be taking care of a small person and not understanding what to do or why your baby is crying is not only stressful but can make you feel not good enough. Vivien Sabel's book will help you to be so much more than 'good enough'. It will help you to be a great parent and to realise that parenting is about love and being open to the experience of finding out what your baby needs and how best to meet those needs. As a Psychological Therapist, every day I meet adults who never had their needs met. Don't let your baby grow up with such a poverty of experience. Christine Bonsmann MBACP (Accred), MBPsS, MSc, MBA, PG Dip.

Here's what someone had to say about The Blossom Method™

Vivien, just about to begin chapter two and already I am amazed. I feel almost embarrassed that I didn't think of it--I mean it's so simple, so natural, so obvious (now) that it's as if humanity has been living in a cave all this time. How could we have NOT recognized this before? One day, parents will look back on your book and say to themselves, "Really? There was a time when people didn't already know this? How could this be?" Congratulations on being the one to figure it out. Makes me wish I had a baby so I could use the Blossom Method right now. :D Hugs!

To Baby Sign or not to Baby Sign that is the question

Is Baby Signing a useful communication tool for you and your baby? Can your baby really communicate using Baby Signing and will you and your baby be able to pick it up easily? At what age do you think your baby will understand Baby Signing? What are the benefits and myths surrounding Baby Signing? Why not join us in this debate and come and discover all you need to know about Baby Signing. Read all about it here in our blog post and decide for yourself!

http://www.wrigglyrascals.com/blog/2012/05/baby-sign-language/

Dear reader....

Dear reader, you are about to embark on a life-changing journey. Seriously, this book will empower you to be able to make a significant positive difference in your own life and most importantly give your baby the best possible start in the world. I have written this brief introduction to explain why I am quoted on the front cover of this book as saying “Truly groundbreaking … a MUST read for every parent”. There are very few books that will make a profound difference in world, but I can say with confidence, and with delight, that this book is one of them. When I was invited to review the Blossom Method™, I had no idea I would be privy to one of the most ground breaking discoveries for parenting and child development of our time. Babies are born with an innate need to connect and communicate with their parents. We know this is true, when they stare deep into our eyes, move their tongues, cry, smile and reach out to touch, but until now it’s pretty much been a guessing game as to what it is our babies are really saying. How many times has a parent cried in desperation “if only you could tell me what you need I would take care of it”. Well, thanks to Vivien Sabel, now learning your baby’s language and communicating with her IS possible. Since reading this book, I’ve wondered why it has taken so long to discover the secret language of babies. My only explanation is that baby body language, like gravity was always there, but like Isaac Newton it took an amazing person with extraordinary talents to discover it and share it with the world. Vivien’s unique life circumstances of growing up with a deaf mother gave her a profound gift – the ability to notice and to read even the slightest body gesture. Thanks to Vivien, now every parent can practice and develop that same sensitivity using the easy-to-follow step-by-step guide provided in this book. I only wish I had the Blossom Method™ when I was a new mother and spent many sleepless nights trying to guess what my baby needed.

Not knowing, guessing and desperation can now be a thing of the past as you and your baby can learn to communicate from day one. Your baby can have her needs met once you know what to look for in order to understand her. Communication and understanding are the basis upon which a deep life-long bond between you and your child can be established. This will not only change your relationship with your baby, but your baby’s relationship with the world. So you can see why this groundbreaking book is a must read for any new parent! As an educator and advocate for the development of life skills in children, I am so pleased to be able to endorse this book and to witness the incredible difference this will make in the early days of family life for new parents. Most of all, I wait with baited breath to see the difference the Blossom Method™ will make in the world supporting the development a new generation of babies who can communicate, feel understood and form deep bonds with their parents. Dr Rosina McAlpine Former Associate Professor, Author of Inspired Children: How The Leading Minds of Today Raise Their Kids. Parenting Expert @ www.winwinparenting.com

Why Does It Take So Long?

The first time we got asked to have our son assessed for autism was when he was 13 years old.

He had just moved up to secondary school.

His first day at school seemed to be fine.

Then his world came crashing down.

He was getting ready for school and as the time for him to leave got closer he became more anxious.

The moment drew closer and he just couldn't walk out of the door. Tears rolled down his face and panic appeared in his face.

On that day we spent hours trying to get him to school without any luck.

This carried on for months the tears, the panic and the anxiety.

We would take him to the school and as soon as we walked into the school gates the panic would start all over again.

We were meant to hand him over to one of the teachers there but he would work himself up and the teacher would just turn round and say,

"If you can't get him in school then we are going to send you to court."

We had done everything we could and the stress this was causing us was unbelievable.

The school even got a psychologist involved and he was the one who asked for him to be assessed.

We had no clue how to do this he told us to go to the doctor and they would get the ball rolling.

We saw the specialist once and he didn't say much. Our son was put on a list.

The school had to fill out forms that the specialist had sent them. There was a delay.

I was left to chase them up myself.

Even then the school continued to threaten us with court action.

Because our son still found it hard getting himself into school.

Last year we finally got our appointment for him to be tested.

The specialist sent out another form for the school to fill out and can you believe it when the time came for the specialist to come around and see us the school still hadn't fill out their part of the assessment.

Thankfully the assessment went ahead.

I was asked once again to chase up the form with the school and after numerous phone calls they eventually sent off the form.

And then we got the results. Our son has autism.

It total it has taken 3 years.

3 years of the school causing a lot of stress.

3 years of court threats.

My question is WHY DOES IT TAKE SO LONG?

And why is there no help for the children and parents who have to go through this slow and distressing process.

Here is a little more about Lisa this weeks guest post blogger

I'm a mum of 3 wonderful children

J is 18 this year and I can't believe how fast he's growing up.

S is 16 and has autism he's a great lad. He's the most kindest lad you will ever meet

H is 5 the only girl in the family she is also being home schooled.

My blog address is autismlife16.wordpress.com